Before today, I repeatedly told myself I was done caring and obsessing over things that clearly would upset me in more ways than one. (refer to Feb's post) But yet, I was never truly done- until a few days ago that is. Or at least mostly done, more than I was last. I'm not sure if I was just trying to prove something by holding on for this long, to bear through those few months. But for what? At what cost? What did I learn? Sometimes, you just try so hard to save someone, but perhaps they just didn't want to be saved from the very beginning.
In time, I have just got to stop caring. Because I learnt that somethings are just not meant to be solved and saved, but just meant to be left alone to find its own path. Because I have tried and tried- so hard. What exactly am I trying to achieve by trying? I've lost reason to continue trying. I've lost faith. I go on about people who try too hard, when all along, I myself am a living example of contradiction.
Its a big world out there. A great big dangerous world, filled with countless unknowns; Somewhere where people will hurt you through ways unimaginable, use you for your status, or until you're useless, putting up this mask, to fool everyone.
Sometimes I wonder whether those who do those unto others, know what they're doing, and just go ahead with it because they're just sad shallow pitiful human beings, or somehow their character was just simply moulded in such a way to survive in this cruel world. Isn't that reality though?
Let me give you a simple example. In this modern society, networking is key, you attend social events for networking, get to know more people. But for what? What exactly is your ultimate goal? Friendship? yeaahh sure, more like partnerships, internships, a better career opportunity?
There are 2 types of people. Those who go ahead with putting up a business front, official and all, mingling at these events. And then there is another type, where they simply cannot bear the thought of putting up this "front" just to gain status/ benefits. But they are the ones that lose out at job opportunities etc. THEN AGAIN, I know there are times you truly think someone is truly interesting and you'd want to get to know them more, cos they've travelled the world, seen cool things, done awesome daredevil things. But really, most of the time, what are the chances that you give them a chance, or give yourself a chance to get to know them better, giving them the benefit of the doubt. And even if you are at the top purely through your hardwork and genuinity, there will be people who suck up to you for the sake of their own greed. So I'm at this point where I'm searching for the appropriate "balance", what is right, and what should be wrong. Bottom line is, you don't know what is real anymore.
For every downfall/ unexpected event that happens, you gotta see it as an opportunity- When one door closes, another opens. It shows you exactly the opposite- what you don't want to happen, or who you don't want to be, pushing yourself to become a better person. But I guess that is where I found it hard to understand, as to why good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people?
I did once think, "you simply have done so many wrongs in your life that you simply do not deserve such goodness and happiness". But who am I to judge? I myself am a sinner. I sin everyday, I simply am not perfect. Just because I don't do the things evil people do, do I have the right to judge them? Upon such judgement on my part, I am ashamed I have had such thoughts, to think one does not deserve such fortune upon oneself, for I lowered myself, to be beneath them. Hence, I think this time, there will be no turning back- for real.
If you stop talking much less think about something, it will soon fade into the background, together with all the chaos and stresses of the world, drowned in the pool of unwanted worries, and you'll soon realise, you've stopped caring about it altogether; you're finally free.
Here's to an oh-so-unwanted-too-early mid sem break.
Anyeong!
When I'm with you, I'm standing with an army.
